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50 Gifts to Get Your Masculine-Presenting Woman/Stud for Christmas Shopping for a masculine-presenting woman can be challenging, especially when you want to add some thoughtful gifts that aren’t on her list. Masc women are a very specific group of women who embrace many things across the gendered scale. They want gifts with weight, purpose, and vibe… not random “cute” things you grabbed last minute because they were on sale at Target and had a bow on them. Trust me, as a masc-presenting woman myself, I can tell you most gift guides are not made with us in mind. They lean feminine, for women, masculine for men, or generic, and none of it fits the energy. So this year, I created a Christmas gift guide that actually reflects what studs and masc women want: elevated essentials, well-made gadgets, clean style, quality tools, dope experiences, and things that make everyday life smoother.…

Add Culture to Your Gifts Every year, when the holidays come around, I’m reminded of how much wrapping paper says about the person giving the gift. Some people keep it simple. Some people go full glitter. But me? I want wrapping paper that looks like me, and my culture. That’s why I always shop Black-owned stationery brands, especially during Christmas. If you’ve ever walked into any of the big box stores and felt like none of the designs matched your vibe, your family, or your traditions, you’re not alone. For years, gift paper aisles didn’t reflect us at all. Thankfully, Black-owned stationery companies are stepping in with beautiful, creative, and culturally-rich designs that feel like home. Whether it’s bold patterns, holiday styles with Black families, or year-round prints with melanin magic, these brands make gifting feel personal. This list highlights 11 Black-owned wrapping paper and stationery brands that will completely…

The Double-Edged Sword of Masculine Presentation Let’s keep it real… being a masculine presenting woman in the lesbian community can be like walking a tightrope over a pit of stereotypes and assumptions. You’ve got to balance who you are with how the world sees you, and that world often has a skewed, judgmental view. We’re talking about the unfair, heavy load of being perceived as more aggressive, more toxic, and even abusive, just because you choose to rock a more masculine look. When you walk into a room, people’s eyes aren’t just on you, they’re on the version of you they’ve already decided exists. But let’s keep it a buck: abuse, whether it’s physical, emotional, or mental doesn’t have a uniform. Abuse can come from brokenness, power struggles, and from control issues. It doesn’t favor masculine over feminine, or vice versa. Anyone can be abusive, and anyone can be a…

The Dinner Table Was Sacred Growing up, the dinner table wasn’t just where we ate, it was where we existed as a family. My parents made sure we had at least two meals a day together, every single day. We sat down, said grace, and practiced good manners. No TV, no distractions, just us, our plates, and our conversations. What I didn’t know back then was that this wasn’t everyone’s experience. But for my family, it was tradition, one passed down from my grandparents to my parents, and from my parents to my brother and me. And to this day, it lives on. My brother and I both still eat at the dinner table, even when we’re alone. When we’re with our parents, it’s just automatic. The dinner table has always been a symbol of connection, routine, and care. It’s not about being old school. It’s about being intentional. That…

A Stylish Sip: My Honest Review of the JoyJolt 20-Piece Elle Fluted Glass Set One of my besties came through and sent me the 20-Piece Elle Fluted Glass Set from JoyJolt for my bar, and let me tell you, this was exactly what I needed. I’d been talking about upgrading my bar glassware for a while, and boom, he found this set on sale at Nordstrom Rack (because he’s thoughtful and knows a good deal when he sees one). Now look, they’re not crystal, but they are glass, dishwasher safe, and absolutely BEAUTIFUL. The fluted detail gives everything you sip a lil extra razzle dazzle, and they instantly made my bar feel more grown and luxe. This set really gives “I host a cute lil cocktail hour” energy without breaking the bank. Two glasses did come broken, and I’m short a couple of white wine glasses, but for the price?…