we spend too much time on the act of connecting. who we connect with, how we connect, what we connect to, and even in the ways we connect. sometimes we even wonder if we are worth connecting with, why do or don’t people connect with me, or even how can i be better at connecting. there is absolutely nothin wrong with pondering all things in connecting. in fact, it’s important but i believe we spend too much time worrying about connecting and not enough time existing.
So many things affect finding a style that looks right on you. Honey, let me tell you, this has always been a struggle for me. I’ve always wanted to have a certain look yet, never could figure out how to pull it off. What I learned is that my struggle was bigger than what I wanted but was more about how I felt. I’m not insecure but I’m fasho self conscious. Being a Black woman who is a masculine presenting lesbian (stud *inserts eye roll), I constantly thought about how something looks on me, would this look good, or even how would people perceive me. I work in an environment that is easily 95% (and I’m being generous) white and in the south, if not this job, any other environment here. I often wondered if what I wear is too masculine would people feel a way about how I look.…
