we spend too much time on the act of connecting. who we connect with, how we connect, what we connect to, and even in the ways we connect. sometimes we even wonder if we are worth connecting with, why do or don’t people connect with me, or even how can i be better at connecting. there is absolutely nothin wrong with pondering all things in connecting. in fact, it’s important but i believe we spend too much time worrying about connecting and not enough time existing.
In my past, I have confused a person’s availability with love or even the factors which result in love. If someone was available they deserved my love or my availability as well. Sometimes it would take priority over the many other key factors that make someone a good catch. Because truthfully, availability is not a factor for me. I rather place the value in someone who makes time than how much time someone has is simply available. When I learned this about myself I decided to reduce the amount of time I gave someone new in my life to determine whether I liked them or if I was attached to them. Availability only plays a part in my dating life when it comes to people who are unavailable. So, people who are available do not automatically get a relationship out of me, therefore, their availability has no bearing on whether…
If you are Black buying Black is important. Not only does this help us support and grow our community but it also allows the world to see in the midst of adversity we thrive. There are always those people who say well all products dont have a Black-owned brand but there are some brands you may not know or even thought exist. Black products are not just clothes, hair care but can be a variety of products. We are going to focus on Black-owned household products. Good Vibes This is a plant-based all-purpose household cleaner. Reel Reel is a paper company, toilet paper & paper towels, which specializes in comfortable and sustainable products. BPA free, biodegradable, no inks or dyes True Detergent Black-owned laundry detergent focuses on quality products. This detergent is 4x concentrated so consumers can use less laundry detergent. It works well in all washing machine types.…
It’s been a while… I have just had a severe lack of motivation to process any of my thoughts to put them down on paper. But, here I am back where I belong, doing what always seems to feel the most normal to me, writing my thoughts. I have been feeling completely off lately, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even financially. It wasn’t the same feeling I had late last year before my bout with depression kicked up. This is more of a fallen off the bandwagon type feeling. I started the year off eating healthy, working out, I might not have lost a ton of weight but I was about 15 full pounds down and of course, I have gained that back. Although I have saved more money than I had in a long time I have had to dip into those savings because I was kicking way too…
For me, 2021 started a bit rocky. It started with the worst case of depression I have ever experienced but I was determined to not let it get the best of me. You probably know all about my experience from My First Year with Seasonal Depression and recently you have learned the things I put in place to battle this depression on my post Things That Are Helping Me Cope With Depression. So it was only fitting to set the tone for 2021 as accountability. Because in order to make and maintain change, accountability is a key foundational item to make sure you can look yourself in the mirror. Too often we lie to ourselves so much about everything relating to ourselves that we actually begin to believe it and we cut that shit out. accountability noun Save Word To save this word, you’ll need to log in. ac·count·abil·i·ty |…
I want requited love in everything whether it’s in my friendships, family, or even romantic relationships. I want to know that the love and effort I put into someone else is been given to me in return. It’s one of those things that I may be foolish in believing that I can have because everyone isn’t going to be the same. Everyone isn’t going to love you how you want to be loved or love you back and they’re not required to do any of those things. But, I can set boundaries and I can ask God to remove those who aren’t supposed to be here, in my life, because I deserve what I put out. And, if I love myself as much as I put love into others I need to set better boundaries and better requirements to live in the space I give someone in my heart. I…
Manifesting, prayer, or whatever you choose to call it is typically the root of all stories because we all desire something then ask the universe for it and I am no exception to that rule. I asked God to send me a companion, someone to share my life with rooted in friendship and love. It’s a funny thing to ask God for what you want but continue to look for something else. While asking God for one thing, I was on the hunt for something different, a romantic forever person. Talk about arrogance. But, much to my surprise I then met you. You are all the things I could ever want, flaws and all. From the first time I came here, I knew it was home. Something about how comfortable the space felt made me feel as though I was made to be here or maybe that here was made…
30 Minutes In The Sun My therapist told me that every day it is sunny, I should go outside for 30 minutes. She explained that I should take the time to go outside, and that a busy day should not keep me from feeling the sun on my skin. We already do not get enough vitamin D, so try to get as much of it as I can. According to Healthline, “Studies have shown a link between vitamin D deficiency and depression. Researchers behind a 2013 meta-analysis noticed those study participants with depression also had low vitamin D levels. The same analysis found that, statistically, people with low vitamin D were at a much greater risk of depression. The researchers believe that because vitamin D is important to healthy brain function, insufficient nutrient levels may play a role in depression and other mental illnesses. An earlier 2005 study Trusted Source…
Playdough is a children’s toy/activity that has stood the test of time. Many things and fads come and go but playdough is something that we all can remember from our own childhood and is something that kids today enjoy. Although playdough is not extremely expensive, you can still save a ton with this recipe. Most of the ingredients you may already have in your house. I had all but one. This is a fun thing to make at home with your kids, nieces, nephews or even students. It is easy, cheap and allows you to be creative. You can make any colors you want and can even add glitter! How is this recipe the best homemade playdough recipe? You can make it your own by creating your own colors or adding glitterAbout $1 will go a long way in the amount of playdough you createKids love itKids love making it…
David J Wolpe asked a simple question but a complicated question to answer. The questioned, why does faith matter. He devoted an entire book to answer this question. This question is important because many people struggle with the answer, whether they are explaining it to someone else or even questioning their own faith. Similar to Harold Kushner, David Wolpe is also a Rabbi. Although he is Jewish his texts are perfect for anyone seeking clarity in this question. If you are not seeking clarity you will find that Wolpe does a tremendous job at defending the faith against atheism. He does an amazing job of expressing this through kindness and by shining a light on the relationship between religion and violence. A popular quote from this book is, “Faith is where we stand in the universe, not an idea that is checked off in the truth or illusion column. Losing…